tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post3884272308028205604..comments2023-05-09T03:59:46.595-04:00Comments on New Thought Man: Feminization of Submissive MenNTMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13176525404839186904noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post-53441347933809346272008-06-30T00:19:00.000-04:002008-06-30T00:19:00.000-04:00Have you read any Bitch Jones? She has some simila...Have you read any <A HREF="http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com/" REL="nofollow">Bitch Jones</A>? She has some similar comments on feminization, like <A HREF="http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/surrender-dorothy/" REL="nofollow">here</A>. Her blog often has interesting feminist analysis of these sorts of tropes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post-13643446003635284492008-02-12T23:19:00.000-05:002008-02-12T23:19:00.000-05:00I found this entry by accident, looking for commen...I found this entry by accident, looking for comments dealing on "post-feminism" and it sort of struck me... given the age of the post, I hope you dont mind my commenting from my side of the thing.<BR/><BR/>I'm a pre-op transsexual, with submissive tendencies I'm just starting to re-explore after years of repression. The repression came from wanting to avoid exactly what you're talking about here: <BR/>reinforcing the gender-biases in strength and weakness, domination and submission. Oddly, my interest in forced-feminization came from wanting to leverage it as a way to break through the repression and percieved humiliation of being transgendered. To make 'excuses' of being dominated as a rationalization for giving up the 'strength' of my male birth-sex for the 'weaknesses' of the female-gender.<BR/><BR/>So in one sense, I commend you for posting this critique of the attitudes that lead me to repression in two different ways. In another... I hope you don't see me as an example of what you're referring to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post-47184527613485016682007-12-10T13:28:00.000-05:002007-12-10T13:28:00.000-05:00Thank you all for your comments. It is encouraging...Thank you all for your comments. It is encouraging to see that people recognize that there are those of us who seek S-D/s relationships without loss of masculinity, and that there are women who seek such men.NTMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13176525404839186904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post-50950384956106422902007-12-05T19:25:00.000-05:002007-12-05T19:25:00.000-05:00When I was looking for a submissive male, I was ve...When I was looking for a submissive male, I was very clear in that I wanted a very masculine man. The last thing I was interested in was a sissy or femmy sort. For Me, there is no allure in a man in a dress, and I sure as heck don't want him wearing or even eying My under garments! That being said, I was shocked at how many men applied that wanted Me to do exactly that to them. Some of them would ask Me over and over. What part of NO didn't they understand?! So many wanted the 'forced feminization' or to be humiliated. I had a very hard time understanding this, and to some degree still do.<BR/><BR/>What I did have in mind, was more of the Arthurian mode, that of a Knight serving his Queen. For a Queen is not a male oriented female, she is strong and proud within her feminity, just as the Knight that serves Her is strong within his masculinity. This sort of man is known as the Hero. His strongest desire is to please and serve, but from a place of strength, not weakness. He also desires the one he serves to be a strong female image, not a woman with masculine tendincies<BR/><BR/>Because I was also want him to be a pleasure slave, that would mean that for Me, all of his masculine skills and abilites as a lover would also be required. Strength and stamina being primary amoung them.<BR/><BR/>So, what I sought was a sensual paladin.. and.. I was blessed that after years of searching, we did find each other. We are both exactly who we are comfortable being. <BR/><BR/>When Paladin kneels to Me as a knight of My realm, there is not a flicker of anything feminine about him. He is a strong and proud man who desires to be of service to Me. And when I Command him.. I am both soft and strong.. but there is nothing masculine about it. We are excacty who were are within our roles. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for the insightful information and the chance to be reflective about it,<BR/>best to all,<BR/>MystressMystresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04442228494268184321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post-88268688259228467992007-12-02T11:00:00.000-05:002007-12-02T11:00:00.000-05:00Fantastic post. A subject as complex as this dese...Fantastic post. A subject as complex as this deserves as much exposure as possible. This is a brilliant start.<BR/><BR/>VerityAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post-36862372212605931272007-12-02T09:49:00.000-05:002007-12-02T09:49:00.000-05:00Wonderful post. I believe that the pervasive image...Wonderful post. I believe that the pervasive images of feminized men allow those in the mainstream to view d/s relationships as truly deviant as opposed to existing on the same spectrum as vanilla sexual behavior. But I also think that this stereotype is a result of our (American) societal need for dichotomies. We have trouble defining things simply in their own terms it's easier to find something to measure it against, even if the comparison is not accurate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4866288066065959419.post-35605113848257816502007-11-30T15:53:00.000-05:002007-11-30T15:53:00.000-05:00Wow! That's the best argument I've ever seen agai...Wow! That's the best argument I've ever seen against a live-and-let-live attitude toward feminization. It's not going to change my behavior, because I'm just a live-and-let-live sort of person, and I never had any interest in feminization to begin with, but I'm still impressed with the argument.<BR/><BR/>As I'm sure you've gathered by now, my style of domination is purely sexual, and it depends on my being female and my partner being male, in a context where there isn't any doubt about what we mean by female and male.<BR/><BR/>Fortunately, on those occasions when I've coached other women in my kind of kink, they'd had little enough previous exposure to female domination that I was able to describe it for what it is, without having to overcome the negative stereotype that you describe. As you say, if I'd run up against the stereotype, I might have failed in my proselytizing, and that would have been a great loss, both to those women and to their partners.SplasherGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02749148822979393225noreply@blogger.com